Mastering Connecting

Connecting is an essential skill to posses while on your journey to success. Having the ability to connect with people is going to depend on your word usage, your tone, your energy and the questions you ask. Connecting can be a simple skill to have once you learn to let go, let go of fear and anxiety. Those are the two most common reasons why people look at the phone in freight when it comes to calling leads and prospects. When attempting to connect with people you end up telegraphing how uncomfortable you are inside you. This leads to questions being asked to you that you did not want, gaps in the conversation and words used like "um, uh huh, yea, sure...etc) This means there is a lack of posture.

Mastering Connecting when it comes to your personal or business life requires posture. Not posture like in the way you sit or stand, but posture as in attitude, having an confident, unstoppable attitude, having a high self-esteem. This is not to be confused with arrogance because when you have posture you have the ability to lead a conversation and touch people emotionally. When you touch people emotionally, you able them to respond not just telling you what they think you want to hear but how they really feel. This also develops a skill that gives you the power of persuasion. NOT manipulation! Understanding the power of persuasion means asking the right questions to get direct yes or no answers.

When you're able to master connecting you create a relaxed, comfortable conversation that achieves your purpose in the conversation. Another way to create that feeling is memorization. Memorization requires you to be a master listener, staying focused listening to what the other person is saying. Most people instead of listening they start processing, thinking of what to ask or say next. This creates a disconnection in the conversation. There's nothing sweeter to the ear than someone hearing the sound of their name. When you have someones name memorized and you are using it throughout the conversation this creates a connection, a warmth feeling of comfortableness between two people.

Mastering Connecting at the end of the day comes down to asking the right questions and creating small talk. Small talk meaning breaking the ice, seeing if there is chemistry, building a relationship, building a rapport. There are a lot other ways to master connecting, these are some of the ways i strongly believe in.

So how many connections have you made today? How many connections will you make today?